There is no external solution for internal problems

You can make a minimum wage and be the happiest person alive. You can weigh 100 kilos and feel the prettiest girl in the town. You can have the most mediocre job ever, and still feel like you’re making an impact and being successful. It’s not about the way it looks for the outside world, it’s about your perception. It’s not about the material possessions, it’s about making the memories and living your life to the fullest.

A lot of those examples I previously named start with self-confidence. Knowing who you are and what’s your worth is the main foundation for everything you will build in your life. If you really want to change the world, start with yourself and anytime you lose your track – get back to the roots, ask yourself again why did you start it and why do you think you can manage it. A self-confident person will always give you straight answers to those questions, even if you wake him or her in the middle of the night – they know it by heart and have no doubts about it even for a second.

Since we live in a materialistic world and so many of us spend a lot of their time worrying about their looks, let’s dismantle the case of the pretty girl. What makes a woman beautiful? What makes her hot, attractive or sexy? You will get as many answers as the people you ask, everybody has their own opinion and different tastes in what they think makes a person attractive. But what if I told you that none of them matter, because there is only one opinion that actually makes the difference – it’s the one of the girls herself. If she wakes up one day and simply decides that she’s beautiful, no one else is going to be able to say otherwise. Her stance and the way she carries herself decides how she will be perceived by others. That one simple decision will impact everything else that shoe does and the way she goes about her life. If you start loving yourself and treating yourself like your own best friend, that will change your life remarkably, in the ways you can not imagine. This one simple piece of truth is so simple, yet so powerful and universal – everything in your life starts with one decision. If you want to become self-confident – you have to simply decide that you are. If you want to become successful in life – firstly, you just have to decide that you are that type of a person.

It's hard living in a modern world and navigating this life that we created for ourselves. People and relationships are full of challenges and it only gets more complicated as you grow older. If you’re reading all of this and feel kind of confused about where to start, my advice is not to look for external solutions for internal problems. Your peace and happiness don’t hide behind the next promotion, new car or bigger house. It’s also not in the amount of likes and followers or the numbers in the bank account. There just simply aren’t any materialistic shortcuts for those needs that you feel in your soul. So far, from what I’ve learned is that life is supposed to be lived here and now, with the people that surround you. Close the social media apps, stop ordering so many clothes, partying every weekend non stop or whatever it is that you’re doing to keep that noise silent. It is not going to go away by simply ignoring it. You have to listen to yourself and let your soul breathe, as hippie as it may sound right now coming from me. Get yourself a book, go for a walk in a park or do something nice for a person that you care about. Once you get your own emotional property sorted out, who knows what comes next – might as well change the world around you.

Just be present

Love, Faja